101 Why the Manifestation Universe Isn’t a Boss, It’s Your Jackpot

Speaker 1: 0:21

Welcome back to another episode of the Live Life Unapologetically podcast. I am Shannon, and I am so glad you’re here with me today, because this episode is one that’s going to completely shift the way you approach manifesting wealth. We’re talking about why the manifestation universe isn’t your boss, it’s your jackpot. So often we bring societal programming into our manifesting practices, especially when it comes to money. We function based on what we know, our personal experiences or what we’ve witnessed in others. But the problem is what we know is often rooted in societal norms, not limitless possibilities. Manifesting is about being the exception to the rule. It’s about creating your own reality, free from the rules that say wealth must be earned, limited or justified. When you manifest on purpose, you’re stepping into a universe where there are no restrictions on how much wealth you can attract, how it can come to you or what you can do with it. Unfortunately, many of us carry beliefs into the manifesting process that actually hold us back. Today, we’re going to unpack those beliefs, confront them head-on and move away from the ordinary to step into the extraordinary. So grab your favorite drink, cozy up and let’s get started.

Speaker 1: 1:47

I want to first dive into one of the biggest ways that societal programming sneaks into our manifesting practices, and that’s that we treat the manifestation universe like it’s our boss. Think about how jobs work. You do something and in return you’re rewarded, usually with a paycheck. If you go above and beyond, you might even get a pat on the back, a new title or even a bonus, but even then the reward often doesn’t match the effort. This mindset is ingrained in us, and, especially as women. We’ve been taught that we have to earn our wealth through hard work, like we have to work harder than men to just get the same recognition or pay. We have to do above and beyond, beyond beyond to generate that wealth. We’re also taught that your value comes from what you do for others. The more selfless you are and the more you go out for others, the more you’ll be rewarded in this life. So when we approach manifesting as women, we bring this same energy. We think if I do this, then the universe is going to reward me. We see the manifestation universe as another job, another system of earning wealth, instead of the infinite source of abundance that it truly is. For women, this programming runs even deeper with societal expectations, because there’s more put on us than just having to work more than a man and prove that we’re just as good or better than a man. We have to do so much more for that recognition, for that wealth. But then there’s other things that are placed on our shoulders as women, like demureness and being good. Oh my God, when the trend went around like I’m so demure, I’m so mindful, it graded my nerves. I get the trend, but it was really triggering because I definitely was taught to be demure and mindful of everything around me.

Speaker 1: 3:47

We’re taught to be polite, to put others first, to not ask for too much, and this spills over into manifesting, where we feel guilty for asking for wealth or abundance just for ourselves. So we have this fear of being seen as greedy and we shrink our desires to avoid being labeled as selfish or greedy, a gold digger, because I want more in this life. I’m a gold digger, as if I can’t get that for myself. Instead of manifesting big dreams, we ask for small things that feel acceptable, whether that is wealth in just our lives that we generate, or we ask for things small, even when it comes to relationships, because we feel we need to compromise. Oh, you’re asking for too much. No, you’re not. No, you are not. But that’s what we’re taught. We’re also taught that we should ask for what benefits others, that we should go through this life and the things that we desire as women should actually be benefiting other people and not ourselves. We should be prioritizing our families, our partners and our community rather than prioritizing ourself. And while there’s nothing wrong with generosity y’all know I’m a giver, I love giving. It makes me incredibly happy the mindset can sometimes mask a deeper belief that our own desires aren’t important.

Speaker 1: 5:09

I’m going to give you an example. I’m a very solitude type person. I like being alone, but I love my family. I love my spouse, I love my children. I love my grandchildren. They bring me so much joy spending time with friends. But I know me and I want to be alone, sometimes four days at a time. I would never own that desire of mine because I thought that made me selfish. And there’s so much rhetoric around. Do you really love your kids? Do you really even want to be a parent? Oh, women who want to have alone time. They didn’t really want to be a mom, or they’re not a good mom or they’re putting themselves before their children. But I just wanted time alone and I thought well, when my kids are all grown up, I can go away and not feel guilty.

Speaker 1: 5:55

Then I became a part of a project that I helped to do, an international project, and part of that project was me traveling without my family and going to another city, which I love, and I did and it was phenomenal by myself. My kids were still small and it was for four days a year and it didn’t make or break anything. It was so hard for me to go the first time. The second time I went it was even harder because it was over Mother’s Day weekend. But you know what? I enjoyed myself. I loved it.

Speaker 1: 6:25

I found one of my new favorite places to visit. Oh, the food. Oh, my gosh. I would go just for the food, the seafood. It was so good, so fresh, so yummy. I love seafood, but we’re taught that that makes us selfish or that it’s too modern. What’s wrong with modern women that they want to get away from their kids and have alone time, or get away from their spouse and have alone time? We’re really put into these boxes and women are put into so many boxes and we take those boxes with us when we go to manifest. And that brings me just to one of the other things, these mindsets of like, noble sacrifices, like, as women, we’re praised for being selfless, so we believe that when we’re manifesting for others, it’s more noble than manifesting for our own joy and fulfillment. Oh, I want to manifest this money so I can give it away to my children. I want to manifest this money for my family. Sure you benefit, but you do it for them.

Speaker 1: 7:31

I remember going through life like in the beginning of my marriage when my husband was like what do you want for your birthday? What do you want for Christmas? And I would always say things like oh, we could really use a new table, we could really use new pots and pans sets. And I would name off things that didn’t. They weren’t for me, they weren’t gifts for me, they were gifts that would benefit the whole family. How noble of me to ask for something that was beneficial for everybody and not just myself. How selfless, especially back then in the beginning, when we really struggled with money and we were living like paycheck to paycheck and sometimes below paycheck to paycheck. How noble of it was it of me to ask for something that was practical and useful and that we needed as a whole, as a family, because it never occurred to me back then to receive just for me. I recently started to receive just for me I don’t know if you guys follow me on TikTok I really hope it stays around but I went through a receiving journey I’m guessing, about a year ago, because I realized anytime I received something, I felt like I had to share it or give it away, because that’s what we’re taught Noble sacrifices.

Speaker 1: 8:47

How many times have you gotten something and shared it? Or how many times have you gotten something and felt weird about just using it for you Like a gift card or something? I know I’m not the only one. I had to go on a receiving journey and be like I could just take it, it could be mine, and so now when I make Christmas lists and things that I want in birthday lists, I put down what do I want?

Speaker 1: 9:07

Last year we rented an Airbnb because we don’t have a pool in our backyard. No-transcript, we really plan to get together and like it’s a whole thing. I was like she’s going to come over and we’re going to be in the pool and then we’re going to eat and we’re going to hang out and do all the things. So I said, no, you can’t come over, you can’t come over my grown children. I have one child left at home and he came later that night to stay because he’s like mom, I don’t want you to stay alone. My husband just stayed at the house because he had work and you know, all his stuff to get ready for work is at the house, is at the house. Why are you going to, like, go 10 minutes down the street? Fine by me, that kind of stuff doesn’t bother me. I had my girls night and I was like no, I just want my time. Like I had to tell my adult children some who have kids and some who don’t like y’all going to have to wait your turn.

Speaker 1: 10:20

This is for me, this is my gift to me and I don’t want to spend it. Love you, but I don’t want to spend it running after my grandkids or just with a whole bunch of noise, because I do like quiet. I’m a quiet person, so I love when things are still and quiet. That’s like my favorite type of thing. Right, I’m not a let’s turn the music on and have fun at this barbecue. Like no, that’s not me. Like my family does that, that’s fine. That’s just not me.

Speaker 1: 10:46

And I wanted some moments of just me that were quiet, that were still, that were just basking in nature and the sun and the heat and the water. But it took me a while to get there. I had to go on a receiving journey of just being able to receive gifts. So first you just need to be able to receive when people give to you and not feel like you have to nobly sacrifice and share. But you also have to get to a place where it’s okay for me to just want something for me and it doesn’t make you selfish. But that’s what we’re taught, that’s what’s programmed into us. So not only are we taught that wealth has to be earned, I have to do something to get something. Then pile on top of that for women being demure, being scared of seeing as being greedy, asking for things that truly just benefit others or participating in noble sacrifices, because that’s what a good, wonderful woman does. Fuck that. It’s time to step out of that.

Speaker 1: 11:40

We talk about living life unapologetically. It means I am not going to apologize for not staying in the boxes you put me in, you boxed me into this, but I’m not going to stay there. I am going to break out and I’m not going to say I’m sorry that I fucked up the box on my way. That is living your life unapologetically. It is okay to once again give, it is okay to participate communally, but it’s okay to ask for things for yourself. You don’t have to justify that Unapologetic. Unapologetic Just say I’m just going to do this and I’m not going to say I’m sorry. It doesn’t mean that you’re being an asshole about it. You’re just not saying sorry. You’re not putting conditions on yourself to keep you stuck in the ordinary. How far has ordinary got you anyway? How much farther could you go if you let go of those things?

Speaker 1: 12:28

The truth is that wealth is not earned. It’s aligned. The belief that money has to come from hard work is rooted in the societal norm that effort equals reward. But when you look around, there are countless examples of wealth that isn’t earned in the traditional sense, and there’s also countless efforts that sometimes you can work hard as shit and it still doesn’t pay off to wealth. Let’s look at some examples of where wealth isn’t traditionally earned in the sense of work. So inheritance is one of them.

Speaker 1: 13:04

There are people who were born into wealth. They did not earn it, they simply aligned with the circumstances of receiving it. They didn’t go to their parents and be like, oh, don’t put me in the will, unless I do this, let me earn it from you. They didn’t do that and they have wealth. And I’m going to piggyback off of this, because what we currently see is a lot of men who have wealth who are abusing their wealth, who got their wealth through doing nothing. They bought a whole bunch of stuff that they didn’t create, they didn’t make, they didn’t work for that shit and they just expanded their wealth. And you might say, well, I wasn’t born into an inheritance, so I’m behind the ball. What I’m telling you is that’s just one example that I want you to see.

Speaker 1: 13:53

I used to think that. I used to think, well, I didn’t come into money or connections, so it’s going to be so much harder for me Fuck that it can come from anywhere. But what I’m trying to show you is you don’t have to earn your wealth. Elon Musk didn’t earn his wealth. Donald Trump didn’t earn his wealth. Who else is there out there? These are just big ones that are all over the news right now. They didn’t earn their wealth and work for it, but they wield it. You can have money that you didn’t earn and, as a woman, you can yield it.

Speaker 1: 14:21

I believe in leaving the world a better place than I found it. That is my belief. Wealth doesn’t have to be ugly. A lot of times we see big emassed wealth, from Bezos to Musk to Trump, to all these other people that do not use their wealth responsibly or they use it for their own gain while hurting others in the process, and I think that’s where the idea of a lot of wealth makes me selfish. It makes me greedy, it makes me a bad person. But I want you to think of other people where that’s not the case. Think about Dolly Parton. I’m not a huge Dolly Parton fan, but I follow the things that she does, and the woman is wealthy and does good things.

Speaker 1: 15:01

You get to choose how you use your wealth, so you can’t think of wealth and tie it to this idea that it has to be ugly. The only way to keep it is to oppress, suppress or do bad things just because these men do it. You’re a woman anyway. You’re different. You’re built different. Why would you use your wealth to make the world a better place, but to also feel good and have the things that you want? I have things I want, I do things I want and I also give and do things that make a world better place, because that is just what I want to do. Maybe it’s the old Girl Scout in me that says you always leave a place better than when you found it, meaning you know, you pick up the litter and do all that. That really stuck with me. It resonated with me that we should leave the world a better place than what we found it, a better place than what we found it. I do believe that we should honor Mother Nature and the earth and love on her and leave her better than when we found it and not use and abuse her. And we can use wealth to do it.

Speaker 1: 16:00

Another way that we don’t earn wealth is investments, you know, passive income from stocks and real estate and businesses that aren’t tied to a nine to five grind. I see so many women going into trying to make their own businesses and they’re bringing that nine to five grind idea. I want to manifest a beautiful, wonderful business, but I think I have to do it the way the workforce does it, even though I left the workforce because I hate the way they do it. But I’m going to bring that same energy and try to manifest a business. Do you see how we like bring in these ideas into our manifestation process?

Speaker 1: 16:32

Then there’s unexpected gifts. That’s another way, that’s not a traditional way of like earning money. Like, how many times have you heard of someone receiving an unexpected windfall, the lottery, a financial gift, something they just didn’t know was coming? And these are just examples, because I told you last week I didn’t want to tell you where my five figures a month comes from because I don’t want to then give you something else to latch on to. That’s going to limit you.

Speaker 1: 16:55

Like wealth can come from inheritance or investments or unexpected gifts. It can come from work. These are just things that we know, but the universe is unlimited. It can come from so many things. I told you the example how I got this weird check in the mail from a business that I had done business with and they owed me money. Like just one example. Money can come from anywhere, but when we go to manifest, we act like it has to come from hard work.

Speaker 1: 17:24

Oh, I am going to go start a business once again and manifest. I work with so many women who own businesses and they are working from the time they wake up to the time they go to bed because society has given you a fear of missing out program that you have to grind so hard just to get a little bit ahead. And once you finally get to a certain place, then you can back up and be fine and work, you know, for a couple hours a day, four days a week. But in the very beginning you have to exhaust yourself. First of all, exhaustion is the death of creativity. You cannot create a beautiful business in exhaustion.

Speaker 1: 17:57

Manifesting money has to be pivoted in a different way. I always say how you start your business and build it is how you have to maintain it, whatever mindset you take with that business and the work you put in. However you do it, you have to take that with you the whole time, because if you try to adjust later, you’re going to go down before you go back up. So just start it how you want it. Don’t box yourself in.

Speaker 1: 18:20

Wealth is not earned. There are examples of people out there who are so wealthy who did not earn it. I want you to open your mind that it doesn’t just have to be an inheritance. You can have investment, you can have unexpected gifts. I want you to open your mind that it doesn’t just have to be an inheritance. You can have investment. You can have unexpected gifts. I like the unexpected gifts part the most. What do you have for me? Universe? Because the universe truly is your jackpot. It is overflowing with an endless supply of wealth. There isn’t a limited amount of wealth and you have to hurry and get it before someone else does or it’s going to run out. It’s endless, it is there. We remove blocks and we step into it and we just go and take what the hell we want. As a grandparent, I have a special place in my pantry full of snacks that I get for my grandbabies and it’s always there for them. They can just go take whatever they want. I put all of their favorite things in there. When it gets low, I don’t say, well, you ran it out. I go restock it because it’s endless and limitless to them. That is the universe. To you it is a jackpot.

Speaker 1: 19:18

Manifestation. Universe is not your job, measuring your output. When you treat it like a job, you are limiting yourself to what you can have earn manifest in your life. But when you see it as a jackpot, you open yourself up to receiving wealth in limitless and unexpected ways. So if you’re ready to start treating the universe like your jackpot instead of your boss.

Speaker 1: 19:39

Here’s how you’re going to shift to that mindset. You’re going to ask yourself do I believe I have to earn my wealth or do I feel guilty for asking for money for myself? Write down any of the beliefs that come up. Then you’re going to replace them with empowering beliefs. Wealth flows to me effortlessly and consistently. The universe supports me in all the ways I desire. I am worthy of abundance simply because I exist, and you’re going to detach from the how. Stop trying to control where your wealth comes from. Trust that the universe has an infinite way to deliver abundance to you Instead of focusing on effort, focus on alignment, and you’re going to visualize your jackpot.

Speaker 1: 20:20

I want you to close your eyes and imagine an endless stream of wealth flowing to you. Feel the excitement, joy and ease that comes with it. Repeat this visualization daily to anchor yourself in the energy of abundance. For me, my visualization looks like money just swirling around me like a money tornado, and I’m standing right in the middle of it and it’s all just right there for me, falling at my feet. What does that look like to you? Give yourself permission to dream big. Stop shrinking your desires. Allow yourself to ask for more without guilt or justification, and I want you to remember that the universe is limitless and your desires don’t take away from anyone else.

Speaker 1: 21:00

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